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6 Naughty Questions to Ask Your Partner and Inspire Hotter Sex

Great sex and communication go hand in hand, without a doubt. So, if you’re not already engaging in regular conversation with your partner about sex, then you really need to start if you’re serious about having hotter sex over the years.

Conversation is the key to ensuring you’re both happy with your sex life. It’s essential when it comes to staying out of ruts or boring routines and keeping dry spells at bay. And when you bring the right topics up for discussion, a simple conversation can be a stellar way to keep things hot and spicy between the sheets, as well.

Not sure where to start? A few naughty questions make terrific conversation starters, as well as create opportunities for you and your partner to get to know each other even better. Here are a few examples to start with.

1.      “What’s your dirtiest fantasy?”

Exchanging sexual fantasies with a partner is a wonderful way to build intimacy, show trust, and get your creativity flowing as far as future love sessions. It’s also a great way to get to know each other a bit better on a sexual level.

Consider turning a question like this into a fantasy exchange between the two of you. Create a list of any ideas both of you like the sounds of. Then consult it whenever you’re in the mood to try something new or for one of you to surprise the other with a naughty treat.

2.      “What’s your favorite type of porn?”

As with pet sexual fantasies, a person’s taste in porn can tell you a lot about what gets them going. Partaking in a bit of porn is something nearly everyone does at least occasionally, but unlike with fantasies, they rarely share the details of what they’re into in this regard.

Encouraging each other to open up about porn preferences is an easy way to get a dialogue going about turn-ons, turn-offs, fetishes, and more – all great topics couples should really be talking about. For even hotter sex you may even want to talk about watching some porn together sometime.

3.      “If you had to give me an orgasm right now, how would you do it?”

Naturally, you probably already have a pretty good idea of what your partner most enjoys doing to you in bed. But unless you’re both already very vocal about your sex life, you probably haven’t had the pleasure of hearing your partner describe it in plain English.

It’s seriously sexy to listen to someone you love talk about their favorite way to make love to you, as well as describe why they enjoy it so much. And, of course, talking about it is the perfect way to segue into doing it.

4.      “Is there a sex toy you’ve always wanted to try but haven’t yet?”

If you’re like many couples, you’ve likely already at least experimented with a toy or two. One or both of you may own a toy or two for your own private, personal use. You may even have brought one into the bedroom before, just to inspire hotter sex when you’re in the mood for something different.

One or both of you has almost certainly entertained the thought of trying a very different sex toy on for size, and a direct question gives that person the ideal excuse to bring it up for consideration. Consider scheduling a joint shopping trip soon or signing up for a toy-themed subscription box from Seductive Pleasure Box to start exploring some options.

5.      “Which of the times we’ve made love was the hottest for you?”

Everyone has sexual memories with their partner that they enjoy looking back on from time to time – times that were especially hot, passionate, or unusual in some way. Your partner is no different in that regard, and you’d no doubt like to hear which encounters made their personal hits list.

So why not just ask them? Then return the favor by confessing which love sessions you can’t stop thinking about. Not only will you get to enjoy the rush that comes with knowing for sure that your lover fantasizes about times you’ve been together, but you’ve officially got permission to organize round two.

6.      “If you could get me to do anything right now, what would it be?”

Although receiving is literally all it’s cracked up to be when it comes to sex, giving can be a serious turn-on, as well – especially when you know the recipient is totally and completely lost in what’s happening.

So, try giving your partner full permission to have it their way sometime. Ask them to describe every detail of what they’d like you to do, and then see how closely you can follow directions. They may even offer to return the favor. Try it and see what type of naughty questions inspire hotter sex for you and your lover!

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6 Crucial Sex Toy Safety Tips Every Pleasure Seeker Should Know

If you’re like most avid pleasure lovers, there are probably many things that come to mind when you think about sex toys. You likely think about powerful orgasms on demand, mutually satisfying sex play with your partner, and novelty on tap whenever you’re in the mood for something new.

You might not think immediately think about safety when you think of sex toys, but it’s really important that you start. A working knowledge of how to use sex toys safely, responsibly, and correctly is a must if you’re serious about getting the most out of yours. Here’s a look at a few crucial tips to keep in mind.

1.      Be careful where (and from who) you buy your toys.

Sex toys are huge these days, and everyone wants their own piece of the pie. But unfortunately, not everyone is as meticulous about making sure their toys meet standards as they should be. So always vet both the toy manufacturers and the vendors you buy from before putting your money down.

Stick to reliable, well-respected brands with an excellent reputation for making safe, reliable toys. When buying from a standalone toy merchant, always check to ensure they have a reputation for doing good business and caring for their customers. And exercise extra caution when buying from a large global marketplace like Amazon, as it can be difficult to tell what you’re really getting for your money.

2.      Know your toy materials.

It’s not just who makes and sells your toys that you need to consider when investing in something new. It’s also what your toys are made of. Some toy materials contain additives and chemicals that can have hazardous effects on your health, up to and including hormone disruption – like phthalates, to name just one example.

Toys that are soft or jelly-like are more likely to contain phthalates, so understand this when evaluating your options. You may also wish to stick to 100 percent body-safe materials you know you can trust. Glass, metal, and medical-grade silicone are just a few popular examples.

3.      Establish a cleaning routine.

Although people technically know they should be washing their sex toys regularly, most aren’t doing it often enough. They’re also risking their health every time they forgo a cleaning, so it’s essential to establish and stick to a strict cleaning routine for all of your toys.

All sex toys should be thoroughly washed and dried after every use, as well as each time the toy is passed to a new partner during play. You also need to clean a toy before switching from anal stimulation to genital stimulation. Don’t skip a necessary cleaning because it’s not convenient. Keep an easy spray-on, wipe-off toy cleaner on hand for those times.

4.      Always use toys as intended.

Although it might seem like it’s okay to take an “if it feels good, do it” approach to sex toys, it’s important to resist the urge. Yes, different toys are made to serve different body parts or deliver different types of stimulation for efficiency’s sake.  But safety is a huge factor, as well.

For example, sex toys that aren’t made specifically for anal use may lack essential safety features to prevent the toy from getting accidentally lost inside the body. So always read the directions that come with your toy and use it as directed. The last thing anyone wants is to spend the night in the emergency room explaining an embarrassing situation to a doctor.

5.      Be careful when sharing toys with others.

Naturally, half the fun of owning sex toys in the first place are those special times you get to share your toys with a partner. But it’s important to understand that even if you religiously clean your toys, it’s still possible to spread bacteria and pathogens around when toys pass from one person to another.

A good rule of thumb to follow is to protect your toys in any instance when you would protect yourself. (Unless you’re in a long-term mutually monogamous relationship, you should be practicing safe sex anyway.) So, use condoms on insertable toys to keep them sanitary, especially if they’re made of porous or semi-porous materials. Switch out the condom as needed.

6.      Make sure your lube is toy-safe.

A particular lube being made for personal or sexual use is no guarantee that it’s okay to use with your favorite toys, so always make sure the two are compatible before you play. Silicone lubes and some hybrids can be disastrous when used with silicone toys, for example.

When in doubt, stick to water-based lubes when playing with your toys, as they’re almost always compatible. And never substitute grooming products, lotions, or anything else from around your house, just to be safe.

Ultimately, sex toy safety isn’t rocket science. But it’s essential to stay on point with it and establish ongoing good habits. Get started today!

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5 Steamy Suggestions for Spicing Up Your Next Anniversary

Whether you’re still hot and heavy in a brand new relationship or have been married for decades, it’s impossible to underestimate the benefit of an extra steamy anniversary celebration. Sex is an integral part of staying connected, especially over time, and not just inside the bedroom. Couples who take good care of their sex lives are closer as a rule outside of the bedroom, too.

That said, how you celebrate your anniversaries is ultimately up to you. But it’s to your benefit to make sure each celebration has a spicy, sexy element to it. Here are some tips for ensuring your anniversaries end exactly where you know you hope they will – with the two of you enjoying each other’s company between the sheets.

1.      Dress the part.

Although it’s a wonderful, natural, and highly beneficial thing for couples to become more comfortable with one another the longer they’re together, it’s important not to stop going out of your way to impress your partner. Think back to the way you planned for that first night together. You probably agonized over your undergarment choices and went the extra mile to make sure you’d look, smell, and feel incredible.

While there’s no need to dress to the nines for your partner every single day, you should be doing it for your anniversary. And to keep things steamy, make sure your ensemble includes some delicious intimate wear that you know will make your partner’s jaw drop.

2.      Change the scenery.

Although there’s nothing wrong with spending your anniversary at home, if that’s genuinely what you want to do, keep in mind that your anniversary isn’t like any other day. The best way to make it feel a little more magical than any other ordinary day together is to turn it into more of an event by going somewhere else.

Of course, an anniversary is a beautiful time to consider jetting off somewhere exotic and romantic, but don’t sweat it if you don’t have the time or the spare cash. Checking into a local luxury hotel or bed and breakfast can also set the scene for some steamy lovemaking. Hotel rooms make great places to experiment sexually, as well. Think spacious rooms, comfy beds, and thick walls!

3.      Reconstruct your first night together.

Speaking of that first hot, steamy night you spent together, when was the last time you tried recreating a similar scene? Have you ever done that? If not, then there’s no time like an anniversary to make it happen. You might be surprised how easily it brings back all those old, smoldering feelings.

Head back to the same restaurant where you ate and retrace the steps you took as the evening played out. Reminisce about the things you talked about and the little things that clued the two of you in to the fact that you were in the company of somebody special. And when that old, seductive spark makes an appearance, go with the flow.

4.      Get naughty someplace unusual.

Another terrific way to put the jolt back in your sex life in time for your anniversary is to step into your day with a goal to be sexually spontaneous. In other words, plan on having sex, but don’t do it in your bed or anywhere else on your usual rotation.

Instead, make it a point to have sex someplace completely different. Pack a picnic, a bottle of wine, and a blanket. Enjoy an alfresco meal in a secluded field later, right before making passionate love underneath the stars. Get a little naughty in the back row of a movie theater at midnight. Park in an out-of-the-way place and make out in the back seat like teenagers. Be creative!

5.      Take some new toys for a spin.

Bringing a sex toy or two into the bedroom to use together is a really simple way to put some extra spice back into your lovemaking any day. But toys should be a must when it’s your anniversary, and what better occasion than an anniversary to take a few new options for a spin?

If you’ve got your heart set on something specific, why not plan a shopping session together at your favorite sex shop or online toy emporium? You can both fantasize out loud about how much fun it will be to use the items together and start getting excited about the experience.

And if you’re game for a few surprises, you might consider signing up for a sexy subscription box from a service like Seductive Pleasure Box as a special anniversary treat to yourselves. Then you can look forward to a package full of new goodies (toys included) arriving on your doorstep every month. What better way to keep your love spicy, fresh, and fun on an ongoing basis?

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How to Build a Sex Toy Collection on a Budget

There are two kinds of people in the world when it comes to sex toys. Those who don’t understand what all the fuss is about because they’ve never tried them and those whose lives were changed forever after taking their very first sex toy for a spin. Naturally, many people who are the second type eventually transition into toy collecting after discovering just how many options there are out there.

But what if you’re on a budget? Is it still possible to build a seriously killer sex toy collection filled with high-quality toys regardless? The answer is yes, absolutely. You just need to know where to look and how to go about things. Here are some tips to get you started.

Don’t be a stranger to the clearance section.

Building an incredible sex toy collection on a budget isn’t much different from doing the same thing when it comes to clothes, shoes, or anything else delightful that can add up over time in the money department. The key to making your money go as far as possible at your favorite toy shops is to be a savvy shopper.

Keep track of when your favorite places have sales, and mark your calendar to ensure you don’t forget to shop the really good ones. Check clearance sections frequently, as well. It’s a great way to get incredible toys for even better prices due to overstock, discontinuation, minor imperfections, and more.

Take impeccable care of the toys you already have.

One way to ensure your toy collection keeps on growing is to make sure you’re not having to retire your favorites ahead of schedule due to improper care. The more religious you are about taking good care of your toys, the better they’ll work and the longer they’ll last. You should already be washing and sanitizing your toys after every use, but don’t stop there.

Make sure you’re also storing your toys properly to prevent any integrity loss. Each toy should be stored inside a separate bag, box, or another toy-safe container. This keeps toys that might be made of incompatible materials from touching one another. It also keeps your goodies free of dust, lint, and other debris, especially if you sometimes go a long time between uses.

Subscribe to different mailing lists.

If you have particular manufacturers or vendors, you especially love, sign up for their mailing lists if you haven’t done so already. Lots of toy retailers periodically send out coupons and discount codes to help entice loyal customers to buy more often, including examples that are exclusive to subscribers.

Most will be for around 10-15 percent off or so, but that can still add up to a lot of money saved if you’ve had your eye on something pricey. And being part of a mailing list always ensures you’ll be the first to know if there’s a big sale coming up, if a vendor offers a birthday discount, etc.

Sign up for a subscription service.

Subscription boxes are all the rage these days, and with good reason. Not only do they give people fantastic opportunities to explore niche interests and passions on an in-depth level that’s lots of fun, but they’re great ways to save money. Many subscription boxes offer continuous access to premium products, new releases, and more for one low monthly price that’s easy to budget for.

And yes, you can subscribe to box services made with the unique needs of toy lovers in mind. For example, Seductive Pleasure Box offers multiple box options for individuals and couples alike, including solo boxes for men and women. Just pick the option that’s the best fit for you, sign up, and get excited about watching your sex toy collection grow a little bit every month without breaking the bank in the process.

Take advantage of loyalty programs.

Another great way to save money when you shop from top brands is to take advantage of any loyalty programs your favorites might have in place. Many such programs allow members to accumulate points by making new purchases, reviewing past purchases, or completing additional actions like adding the company on social media and referring friends. Those points can then be cashed in on free or deeply discounted toys and products.

Many websites and vendors offer additional ways to reap rewards that can add up to significant savings if you’re smart about it, as well. So don’t be afraid to get creative and do a little sleuthing. Smart shoppers are shoppers that save a fortune and have a lot to show for their efforts.

So as you can see, you don’t have to be swimming in disposable income to build an awe-inspiring sex toy collection that contains a little something for everyone and every mood. Get started today! You’ll love the results.

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5 Ways to Stay Connected to a Long-Distance Partner

Modern technology makes it less complicated than it used to be to make a long-distance relationship work. Your partner is always just a quick message, text, or Facetime call away, so it’s never been easier to stay communicative. But maintaining a healthy connection to your partner in other ways can be incredibly challenging.

After all, intimate connection is a huge part of any healthy relationship, but keeping that spark alive when you can’t be together physically as much as you’d like calls for creativity. Here are some popular options to consider further.

1.      Start and end your days together.

One of the most powerful ways a couple can take care of their connection (whether they’re long-distance or not) is to make sure they talk every morning and every night. Just as it would if you weren’t long-distance, a quick chat in the morning helps set the tone for your day. It keeps you on one another’s minds throughout the morning and sets the tone for any texts you want to send throughout the afternoon.

And touching base again at night helps you enjoy a little alone time at the point in your day when you’re most likely to feel lonely. That’s a great time to do things like discuss how your respective days went and provide any emotional support you might need, as well.

2.      Meet up as often as you can.

Even if the two of you are great about calling and texting often enough, it’s still important to get together in person as often as possible. Every couple needs to be able to do things that just aren’t the same at a distance, like going out to dinner, making love, or even vegging out in front of the TV.

Try your best to see each other at least every two or three months. And be sure to visit one another where you each live, as well. Planning the occasional romantic getaway and meeting up somewhere exotic is fine to do occasionally. But it’s also important to take turns being part of one another’s everyday lives.

3.      Always have your next meetup planned.

When you’re in a long-distance relationship, it’s important to be able to look forward to your next in-person meetup, even if it’s a little while into the future. Always having your next meeting date set gives you something to look forward to, as well as something to keep in mind when the going inevitably gets a little rough.

However, it’s also a good idea to be open to impromptu visits when and if one of you feels lonely or is having a hard time with the distance. The best way to reconnect when things get really tough is to arrange to see each other again as soon as you possibly can.

4.      Don’t shy away from sexting.

Although being physically intimate in person is naturally going to be anyone’s first choice, there’s a lot to be said for sexting, especially when it comes to maintaining that spark when you can’t be together. It’s not just for young couples, either.

Try surprising each other with spicy, sensual texts throughout the day when you’re on each other’s minds. You don’t need a special reason. Feeling a little randy and wishing you could touch your partner? Tell them what’s on your mind and see where it goes. Want to show off how sexy you look in a brand-new lingerie set you just bought? Surprise them with a sexy selfie.

And be sure to make plenty of time for more involved sessions, as well. Have phone sex, schedule date nights over Skype that end in spicy video play, or anything else that strikes your fancy.

5.      Send each other sexy or romantic care packages.

Another great way to stay intimately connected when you’re apart, is to surprise each other with a little something nice in the mail from time to time. You can put together personal care packages filled with items like homemade cookies, little keepsakes, and even adult toys you can use to keep things exciting when you can’t be together.

And if you like the idea of sending some sexy things for your partner to play with while you’re apart but aren’t sure what to choose yourself, try gifting them a subscription to a monthly toy box from a service like Seductive Pleasure Box. They’ll receive a beautifully curated box filled with top-shelf sex toys, fun sensual products, and other goodies to explore and experiment with each month.

Don’t be afraid to discuss some interesting ways to use the goodies together during your next in-person visit! In the meantime, you can treat each other to some demonstrations over Facetime or via some naughty pictures, should the mood strike. Try it and see!

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How to Talk Your Partner into Trying Something in Bed

There’s nothing to be embarrassed about. Sexual ruts and dry spells happen to absolutely everyone from time to time. Life gets busy, schedules get packed from wall to wall, and it can be tough to find the energy to be energetic and creative in bed at the end of the day. So instead, you either hold off on sex altogether for a while or fall back on what you already know gets the job done.

Before you know it, your sex life just doesn’t have that same pop that it used to. You want to get things back on track, and you can even think of a thing or two you’d love to try with your partner. But you’re just not sure how to start a conversation about it and sell them on the benefits of giving it a try. Here are a few tips to help you get started.

Keep it positive and light-hearted.

Many people have the same fear when it comes to starting a conversation like this with their partner – that they’ll take a desire to spice things up a bit as a critique on their performance. But you can help reduce that possibility by keeping things positive, light-hearted, and at least semi-casual as far as tone.

Start by talking about all the things you love about having sex with your partner. Be specific about things you find sexy about them or little ways they never fail to turn you on and make lovemaking incredible for you. Then steer the conversation in a new direction by asking them if there’s anything they would like to try in bed and taking it from there.

Leave complaints out of the equation.

When the time comes to bring up your own ideas about things you’d like to try in bed, be careful how you phrase your requests. Often people wait to even begin a conversation with their partner about sex until they’re already super frustrated with something in particular, and they may not even realize it until they start talking. So, take care not to complain or approach things from a negative angle.

For instance, instead of saying, “We never have sex anymore, and when we do, it’s over so quickly,” try, “I’d love to spend one of those long, lazy Sundays in bed with you soon.” In other words, make your request by asking for the positive thing you want instead of complaining about the negative thing you don’t. Consider how you’d like your partner to talk to you about your sexual rut if the shoe were on the other foot.

Be patient with your partner.

Remember, not everyone is as comfortable talking about sex as someone else might be, and that’s okay. And if your partner is a little more reserved in this arena, you likely already know it. Keep in mind that this discussion isn’t just about you but the wonderful, intimate sex life that you share together, and be patient with them.

If you catch your partner off guard the first time you bring up the topic, and they seem uncomfortable, respect their boundaries. But do follow up on the subject another time. If necessary, ask them to suggest a day or time to discuss it. Ask if there’s anything you can do to make the conversation easier, but don’t drop the topic altogether. It’s important to be able to talk to your partner about sex and bring up any concerns, desires, or ideas you might have.

Listen in addition to talking.

Once you finally do get that conversation started, make sure you make it an actual conversation. Don’t talk “at” your partner or make the entire discussion about you. However, do float your ideas out there as far as what you’d like to try, whether that’s carving out more time to linger in bed together or trying something specific – like a small toy or some light roleplaying.

Then ask your partner to contribute a few ideas of their own. Maybe there’s a new position they’ve been meaning to suggest, or perhaps they’d love more romantic play, like sensual massages. Get some good back-and-forth going and settle on a few ideas you both like the sounds of.

Take the next step together.

Putting the pep back in your sex life if things have been stale lately isn’t just about jazzing things up in the bedroom. It’s about making time to reconnect and foster stronger intimacy, in general. Make sure you’re making your time together a priority. Surprise your partner with tickets to an event or a romantic dinner reservation at their favorite restaurant. Then see where things go.

Taking the time to nurture the romance and connection in a relationship is often the best way to get out of a sexual rut and open the door to some new activities to try together. So, get started today, and you’ll see.

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5 Uniquely Useful Gift Ideas for Newlyweds

With Valentine’s Day in the rearview mirror, peak wedding season will be here before you know it. But, of course, wedding season is about more than figuring out what to wear and juggling your invites with everything else you have on your ongoing agenda. It’s also about finding the perfect gift to give the special newlyweds in your life, especially when they’re people you’re close to.

Naturally, you don’t want to give them the same old thing everyone else will think of. (How many gravy boats does a couple really need, anyway?) And if you’re on a budget, you don’t want it to break the bank, either. You want your gift to be something that the couple will genuinely like and get a lot of use out of, too. That’s where ideas like the following make great considerations.

1.      Pick out a set of couple’s luggage.

Although people do occasionally think to present newlyweds with various items, they can take along on a romantic getaway together, luggage doesn’t immediately come to mind for many. However, that doesn’t change the fact that it’s incredibly useful. It’s also something the couple might not already have if they don’t necessarily travel much.

Choose something simple but stylish that fits the couple’s unique personalities and include at least one extra-handy piece (like a rolling suitcase). Great luggage that takes the guesswork out of traveling is a godsend, and the couple on your gift list will surely appreciate theirs.

2.      Plan a fun staycation.

Not everyone has the funds, time, or inclination to plan an elaborate vacation someplace far away, but that hardly means they don’t need to get away from it all occasionally. Consider setting the newlyweds in your life up with a fabulous staycation in their town (or a neighboring one) that you plan so they can relax and enjoy. Think restaurant reservations, tickets, and the whole nine yards.

Many people know their city and general area reasonably well but rarely to never get the chance to experience it from a tourist’s point of view. So not only are staycations a low-key change of pace, but they’re fun in a unique way that gets you out and away without having to stray too far from home.

3.      Treat them to a spicy subscription box.

Sometimes the best gifts are the ones that keep on giving over time. Subscription boxes are all the rage these days, and with good reason. They’re wonderful ways to explore new interests and build personal collections. Plus, everyone loves getting fun things in the mail, and a subscription box gives you something to look forward to on an ongoing basis.

That said, if you have the kind of relationship with your newlyweds that allows for the occasional sexy, spicy gift, consider gifting them a subscription from a service like Seductive Pleasure Box. They’ll receive a variety of premium options guaranteed to turn up the heat in the bedroom and ensure their honeymoon period stays steamy over the months to come. Think top-tier sex toys, titillating accessories, and fun goodies that any couple would have a blast playing with.

4.      Gift them some movie passes.

The whole process of planning, anticipating, and participating in a wedding can be as tiring as it is exhilarating. And lengthy honeymoon trips can take a lot out of you, as well. Sooner or later, your newlyweds will no doubt appreciate a golden opportunity to relax, unwind, and do something low-key.

Everyone likes going to the movies now and then, so consider gifting the couple a personalized gift package that includes a pair of prepaid movie passes. (You can choose from one of the many services out there dedicated to the purpose. Or if the newlyweds have a favorite theater they like to go to, you can substitute local vouchers.) Don’t forget to spring for dinner plus a few snacks to nosh on during the film itself!

5.      Personalize a picnic set.

If your newlyweds like to spend a little time taking in the sunshine and fresh air once in a while, consider gifting them a customized picnic basket for two to make impromptu alfresco lunches a little more romantic. Not only are picnic baskets handy and elegant, but they’re the type of thing people rarely think to buy for themselves or gift to others. They’re also genuinely useful.

Buy something that suits the couple’s aesthetic. Then gift them a few special goodies to go with it. A well-rounded spread of wine, cheese, bread, cold cuts, and fresh fruit is always a good choice. So are indulgent touches like chocolates and other artisan goods.

At the end of the day, knick-knacks are all fine and dandy, but nothing beats a romantic gift that the recipient will get some use out of. So, get creative and start brainstorming!

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5 Ways to Get More Out of Using Toys as a Couple

Although sex toys are a must for swinging singles who want more out of their solo sessions, don’t make the mistake of thinking you have to retire your beloved rabbit vibe or Fleshlight once you get into a relationship. With the right partner along for the ride, you can get even more out of your favorite toys than you did before.

Toys can open a couple up to a whole new wealth of possibilities when it comes to pleasure and satisfaction. They can introduce you to brand new sensations you couldn’t experience any other way. They can bring the two of you closer together and make you better communicators. They can help you keep your sex life smoking hot, as well. Here are some tips for getting the most out of using them together.

1.      Don’t leave the lube out of the equation.

So many people make the mistake of thinking lube is strictly something to reach for when Mother Nature isn’t cooperating, and they’re doing themselves a real disservice. A little lube is a wonderful way to enhance any type of play, whether it’s explicitly needed or not, and this includes anything you want to do that includes toys.

Just make certain that the lube you choose is compatible with your toys first. For instance, silicone-based lubes can be incredible if you’re strictly planning on skin-to-skin play. However, it can ruin the integrity of a condom or your sex toys. So, when in doubt, stick to water-based lubes. They’re always a perfect fit.

2.      Start slow and take things from there.

If one of you is more experienced with toys than the other, it can take some time for the less experienced person to get used to the idea, even if they’re also really into it. So start slow and take your time. If you already own some toys, consider introducing your partner to each one. Offer to let them watch you use one on yourself. If they like what they see, hand the reins over to them for a while and enjoy.

Once the ice is broken, you can start exploring some new territory. First, try using a simple, non-threatening toy like a magic bullet or a vibrating wand to stimulate your partner and let them see how it feels. Then, you can segue into using the toy on each other while you make love or during foreplay.

3.      Try a toy designed especially for couples.

Although most sex toys are relatively easy to integrate into couples’ play, you really owe it to yourselves to give a toy designed specifically for couples a try. They can be absolute game-changers, especially if you’re most interested in toys to elevate the sex you’re already having together.

A vibrating penis ring is a terrific way for both of you to get a lot more out of intercourse. So are wearable horseshoe-shaped vibrators. There are toys out there that come equipped with remote controls or smartphone app compatibility to give you even more ways to get creative, as well. Don’t be afraid to let your imagination run a little wild.

4.      Go shopping for new toys as a team.

Although there’s nothing wrong with picking up a new toy on your own and then surprising your partner with it, shopping for toys together can be a great bonding experience in more ways than one. To begin with, it gets a dialogue flowing between the two of you about your sex life, your turn-ons, your fantasies, and so much more.

Plus, the experience of browsing for new toys can be incredibly hot. You get to take turns pointing out things you like to one another and talking about how you’d like to use them. And if you’re ordering online, you get to enjoy the sweet anticipation of waiting for your order to arrive so you can get down to business.

5.      Get creative with how you play.

Toys bring a lot of possibility to the table beyond the obvious, so don’t be afraid to roll with new ideas that sound like they’d be a lot of fun. For instance, mutual masturbation can be super-hot and informative, so try using your toys separately and together sometime. Waterproof toys can be terrific ways to jazz up your morning shower or make a shared evening bath even more intimate. Small, discreet toys can even make getting naughty in public a little more fun.

So don’t be afraid to explore the possibilities together because toys are more than just a great way to elevate an orgasm. They can keep your relationship spicy, make sexual ruts a thing of the past, and keep you on your toes creatively, as well. Try a few on for size yourself and find out firsthand!

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4 Things Your Guy Is Dying to Know About Your Vibrator

The days when women treated their precious vibrators like dirty little secrets are long over with. Now, it’s all the rage to be sexually confident and proudly take responsibility for your own pleasure. In fact, most modern women have either owned a vibrator before or have thought very seriously about getting one, whether they talk about it openly.

Likewise, most men understand their female partners either currently own a vibrator or have in the past. And many of those men are OK with that fact, but that hardly means they don’t have a few things they’d love to know if they could only figure out how to ask. Here are a few examples.

1.      Vibrator vs. Penis: Which Is Better?

Guys are only human, after all, so they wonder about things like this – especially if they know for a fact that their special lady uses a vibrator regularly. Even the most confident guy harbors fears about not satisfying his partner fully, so it’s only natural to feel a little intimidated by something that’s always ready to rock and roll, day or night.

So, if you know this is something your man worries about, don’t be afraid to set him straight gently. Explain to him that as fun as a vibrator can be, there’s no substitute for deep intimacy with a flesh-and-blood partner. After all, owning a pocket pussy wouldn’t ever make him tired of person-to-person sex, right? Like all sex toys, vibrators are fun to play with once in a while but not comparable to real people.

2.      What It’s Really Like to Own One

These days, sex toys are no longer considered strictly for women. More and more men are catching on to the fact that male-focused options like Fleshlights, strokers, penis rings, and other goodies can be game-changers for them, too. But not every guy has personally taken the plunge into sex toy ownership yet, so those who haven’t are bound to be curious.

Naturally, you know owning a vibrator is no big deal. It’s not something you think about all day long. And while you probably wouldn’t open up a discussion about your vibrator with your grandmother or anything, you don’t see it as a dirty secret, either. It’s just part of your life, like so many other things you own and enjoy using from time to time.

3.      Whether You Use It Every Time

It goes pretty much without saying that men are fascinated with the logistics of how women masturbate, so your guy almost certainly wonders about your solo session from time to time. And if he also knows you own a vibrator, he’s probably got questions about how often it’s part of the mix. For example, do you use it every time? And when you do use it, do you use it the same way every time?

Of course, you know that everyone’s different in this regard. Some women consider their vibrators to be solo time staples, while others are happy reaching for theirs only when they want to do things a little differently. Some women maintain entire collections of sex toys so that there’s one for every possible mood, while others are cool with having one go-to for every occasion. At the end of the day, what’s on the menu when it’s self-service time depends greatly on the person’s mood.

4.      Whether You’d Consider Including Him Sometime

Today’s men are relatively open-minded about sex and female masturbation, so they’re not entirely out of the loop when it comes to vibrators. And yes, if your guy knows for sure you have a vibrator, he’s probably spent a fair amount of time wondering about the logistics of your relationship with it. He’s probably also often wondered what it would be like to be included in your fun.

If you think that might be the case for your man, why not treat him to a spot in the middle of the action sometime? There are so many possibilities to consider. For instance, you could use your vibrator as a teaching tool and show him exactly how you like to use it. Treat him to a spicy X-rated show or invite him to take the reins himself if he’s in the mood.

Vibrators make incredible additions to foreplay and partnered sex, as well. Try using yours to stimulate various parts of his body (with his permission, of course) or wedge it between the two of you while you make love sometime. Not only will it make sex extra hot, but it will take some of the guesswork out of orgasm for both of you.

In other words, vibrators are far less mysterious in practice than they might be in a man’s imagination, but that doesn’t make them any less worthwhile. So, consider satisfying your partner’s curiosity and giving him a crash course in world-class vibrator use. You might both wind up glad you did.

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Why Sex Toys Aren’t Just for Women Anymore

Although many people out there might still think of sex toys as being primarily for women, that’s far from the case these days. Yes, many women love their vibrators and other sex toys for the way they make it so easy to take control of their personal pleasure, but the benefits are by no means limited to women.

In fact, more and more men are discovering just how much the right toys can do for their sex lives, as well. And no one should underestimate the benefits of sharing their favorite toys with their partners, either. So, here’s a closer look at why everyone could benefit from adding a sex toy or two to their repertoire.

Toys take solo sessions to the next level.

Although there’s nothing wrong with going for a quick and dirty orgasm just for the sake of it occasionally, masturbation doesn’t have to be a strictly no-frills affair unless you want it to be. Yes, a vibrator or similar toy can make it easier for a woman to reach orgasm when she has trouble doing so any other way, but any woman who’s into toys knows it’s about so much more than that.

Sex toys allow you to play with interesting new sensations and add nuance to your solo play. And they’re ideal ways for a person to explore their body and discover all the different ways their body experiences pleasure without fear of being judged for what they like.

Men especially could benefit from experimenting with sex toys in this way. Even a basic stroker can add exciting new layers to a man’s pleasure experience, but there’s no need to stop there unless he wants to. Sex toys like P-spot probes, vibrating pleasure sleeves, and more can give him even more options to grow with sexually.

Toys can make sexual ruts a thing of the past.

Variety isn’t just the spice of life. It’s also a bedroom must if you’re going to keep the sex hot in your long-term relationship over the long haul. Life eventually gets in the way of every couple’s ability to have nothing but wild, sweaty, non-stop sex regardless of how attracted they are to one another. Toys can give couples a compelling but straightforward way to keep things fresh in the bedroom without having to constantly come up with new places and ways to have sex the old-fashioned way.

Sex toys take the guesswork out of having (or giving) an orgasm for both parties, so they’re free to simply enjoy the journey and each other. Toys help couples open and maintain a healthy, ongoing conversation about sex, as well. And shopping for new toys together can be a terrific way to bond sexually and romantically.

Sex toys help dismantle sexual shame.

Options like vibrators have been helping more women build better, healthier relationships with their bodies and sexuality for years now, and they continue to do so. As a result, it’s much more common to see women confidently owning their sexual selves than it used to be, and that’s as it should be. But women aren’t the only ones who have societal pressure toward sexual shame to unpack.

Outmoded social beliefs about how a person “should” experience sexual pleasure still affect men to a greater extent than most people realize. For example, men are still largely conditioned away from the idea of exploring their nerve-rich anal area and discovering their P-spot because of what enjoying it might say about their sexuality. Sex toys can be excellent tools for overcoming sexual hang-ups, body image issues, and so much more.

Toys can turn anyone into a world-class lover.

Everyone’s been told that practice makes perfect a time or ten throughout their life, and with good reason. It’s true, and not just regarding the usual things. Sex is absolutely a skill that can improve over time with enough practice and dedication to improving. Toys can be a terrific way to get that practice without also assuming the risks that come with casual sex.

  • Sex toys can help men develop their ability to last longer in bed, not to mention savor the entire experience of lovemaking.
  • Many sex toys can help overcome issues like erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, and other similar conditions.
  • Toys can help people of all genders learn more about their bodies – information they can then bring into the bedroom and pass on to their partners.
  • Couples can use toys to elevate their lovemaking and explore new ways to experience pleasure together as a team.

And these are just a few of the many benefits that come with letting your curiosity about sex toys inspire you to experiment more or invest in some new options. Building a better relationship with yourself, your body, or your partner is never a waste, and the right toy can facilitate that in some exciting ways.