Although many women these days are super in touch with their bodies on an intimate level, others still have yet to lean into masturbation in the same way. Some are still recovering from strict upbringings that taught them to see solo pleasure as dirty or wrong. Others just aren’t quite sure where to start or perhaps simply want to elevate the experiences they’re already having.
Whatever camp you belong to, one thing’s for sure. Making in-depth solo pleasure a regular part of your intimate routine has many benefits. Here’s a closer look at how you can get started in the right direction and take your own play sessions to the next level.
Set aside a block of time
Although there’s nothing wrong with a quick impromptu masturbation session that’s strictly about getting off and not much more, you don’t have to rush through things. In fact, it’s better that you don’t rush if you’re serious about getting more out of your experiences.
One great way to start reframing how you think about solo pleasure is to occasionally block off time for yourself and dedicate it solely to self-pleasure and self-exploration. Approach it the way you would a rendezvous with a lover. Make plans, get excited, and look forward to all the fun you know you will have.
Get yourself in the mood
Sometimes you’re seriously just ready to go right out of the gate, especially if you’ve been looking forward to a little alone time. But taking the time to really get in the mood can only make your experience more delicious. Remember, a woman’s most sensitive erogenous zone is her mind.
Porn isn’t just for men, so that’s always one way to go – especially when it comes to exploring fantasies and scenarios you’re curious about. But many women prefer the descriptiveness and beauty of erotica or even just a sweet, indulgent fantasy session starring their partner or a favorite celeb. There are no wrong answers here, so lean into whatever turns you on.
Experiment with different types of touch
Although every woman is different regarding the stimulation types that turn her on most, pretty much all women respond well to direct clitoral stimulation, especially when orgasm is the goal. So, whether you’re new to masturbation, start there.
Experiment with different ways to stimulate your clit. Some women prefer direct stimulation, while others find it too intense and prefer to stimulate through the clitoral hood instead. Some enjoy rubbing themselves in a circular motion, while others like stroking it from the side or something else entirely. Try different techniques, speeds, and approaches until you figure out what works best for you.
Think beyond the clit
Your clitoris may be the most direct avenue to take when you’re looking to get serious about pleasure, but it’s definitely not the only show in town. Your breasts, nipples, thighs, and stomach are also incredibly sensitive, so be sure to pay plenty of attention to them when you’re hunting for new erogenous zones.
And when you’re ready, internal stimulation is well worth exploring, as well. Use your fingers to explore your entire vulva, including the inner workings of your vagina. And don’t leave your backdoor out in the cold, either. Your anal area is packed with sensitive nerve endings that can significantly enhance and elevate your pleasure sessions when stimulated alongside your clit, G-spot, and other sensitive areas.
Add a toy to the mix
Although there’s nothing wrong with exploring your body the all-natural way, toys are too good to miss out on – especially if your ultimate goal is to get to know your body better and fully understand how it experiences pleasure. If you’re unsure what to start with, small, versatile, approachable options like vibrating bullets is a good choice.
Start by using your toy to explore the obvious places – your clitoris, your vagina, and the rest of your vulva. Then experiment with other body parts. Many women find they love how a vibrator feels against nearly any sensitive area of their bodies, so don’t be afraid to experiment.
Once you’ve got the hang of masturbating and discovered more about what you like as far as stimulation, technique, and so forth, look for fun ways to continue your sexual exploration. Try more different toys on for size. Seek out specific options you like the idea of, or encourage yourself to branch out even further by signing up for a toy subscription from a service like Seductive Pleasure Box.
Play to your heart’s content. Keep the fun just between you and the four walls of your private bedroom, or bring your partner on board with the fun. It’s your party, so you call the shots.