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6 Naughty Questions to Ask Your Partner and Inspire Hotter Sex

Great sex and communication go hand in hand, without a doubt. So, if you’re not already engaging in regular conversation with your partner about sex, then you really need to start if you’re serious about having hotter sex over the years.

Conversation is the key to ensuring you’re both happy with your sex life. It’s essential when it comes to staying out of ruts or boring routines and keeping dry spells at bay. And when you bring the right topics up for discussion, a simple conversation can be a stellar way to keep things hot and spicy between the sheets, as well.

Not sure where to start? A few naughty questions make terrific conversation starters, as well as create opportunities for you and your partner to get to know each other even better. Here are a few examples to start with.

1.      “What’s your dirtiest fantasy?”

Exchanging sexual fantasies with a partner is a wonderful way to build intimacy, show trust, and get your creativity flowing as far as future love sessions. It’s also a great way to get to know each other a bit better on a sexual level.

Consider turning a question like this into a fantasy exchange between the two of you. Create a list of any ideas both of you like the sounds of. Then consult it whenever you’re in the mood to try something new or for one of you to surprise the other with a naughty treat.

2.      “What’s your favorite type of porn?”

As with pet sexual fantasies, a person’s taste in porn can tell you a lot about what gets them going. Partaking in a bit of porn is something nearly everyone does at least occasionally, but unlike with fantasies, they rarely share the details of what they’re into in this regard.

Encouraging each other to open up about porn preferences is an easy way to get a dialogue going about turn-ons, turn-offs, fetishes, and more – all great topics couples should really be talking about. For even hotter sex you may even want to talk about watching some porn together sometime.

3.      “If you had to give me an orgasm right now, how would you do it?”

Naturally, you probably already have a pretty good idea of what your partner most enjoys doing to you in bed. But unless you’re both already very vocal about your sex life, you probably haven’t had the pleasure of hearing your partner describe it in plain English.

It’s seriously sexy to listen to someone you love talk about their favorite way to make love to you, as well as describe why they enjoy it so much. And, of course, talking about it is the perfect way to segue into doing it.

4.      “Is there a sex toy you’ve always wanted to try but haven’t yet?”

If you’re like many couples, you’ve likely already at least experimented with a toy or two. One or both of you may own a toy or two for your own private, personal use. You may even have brought one into the bedroom before, just to inspire hotter sex when you’re in the mood for something different.

One or both of you has almost certainly entertained the thought of trying a very different sex toy on for size, and a direct question gives that person the ideal excuse to bring it up for consideration. Consider scheduling a joint shopping trip soon or signing up for a toy-themed subscription box from Seductive Pleasure Box to start exploring some options.

5.      “Which of the times we’ve made love was the hottest for you?”

Everyone has sexual memories with their partner that they enjoy looking back on from time to time – times that were especially hot, passionate, or unusual in some way. Your partner is no different in that regard, and you’d no doubt like to hear which encounters made their personal hits list.

So why not just ask them? Then return the favor by confessing which love sessions you can’t stop thinking about. Not only will you get to enjoy the rush that comes with knowing for sure that your lover fantasizes about times you’ve been together, but you’ve officially got permission to organize round two.

6.      “If you could get me to do anything right now, what would it be?”

Although receiving is literally all it’s cracked up to be when it comes to sex, giving can be a serious turn-on, as well – especially when you know the recipient is totally and completely lost in what’s happening.

So, try giving your partner full permission to have it their way sometime. Ask them to describe every detail of what they’d like you to do, and then see how closely you can follow directions. They may even offer to return the favor. Try it and see what type of naughty questions inspire hotter sex for you and your lover!

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6 Crucial Sex Toy Safety Tips Every Pleasure Seeker Should Know

If you’re like most avid pleasure lovers, there are probably many things that come to mind when you think about sex toys. You likely think about powerful orgasms on demand, mutually satisfying sex play with your partner, and novelty on tap whenever you’re in the mood for something new.

You might not think immediately think about safety when you think of sex toys, but it’s really important that you start. A working knowledge of how to use sex toys safely, responsibly, and correctly is a must if you’re serious about getting the most out of yours. Here’s a look at a few crucial tips to keep in mind.

1.      Be careful where (and from who) you buy your toys.

Sex toys are huge these days, and everyone wants their own piece of the pie. But unfortunately, not everyone is as meticulous about making sure their toys meet standards as they should be. So always vet both the toy manufacturers and the vendors you buy from before putting your money down.

Stick to reliable, well-respected brands with an excellent reputation for making safe, reliable toys. When buying from a standalone toy merchant, always check to ensure they have a reputation for doing good business and caring for their customers. And exercise extra caution when buying from a large global marketplace like Amazon, as it can be difficult to tell what you’re really getting for your money.

2.      Know your toy materials.

It’s not just who makes and sells your toys that you need to consider when investing in something new. It’s also what your toys are made of. Some toy materials contain additives and chemicals that can have hazardous effects on your health, up to and including hormone disruption – like phthalates, to name just one example.

Toys that are soft or jelly-like are more likely to contain phthalates, so understand this when evaluating your options. You may also wish to stick to 100 percent body-safe materials you know you can trust. Glass, metal, and medical-grade silicone are just a few popular examples.

3.      Establish a cleaning routine.

Although people technically know they should be washing their sex toys regularly, most aren’t doing it often enough. They’re also risking their health every time they forgo a cleaning, so it’s essential to establish and stick to a strict cleaning routine for all of your toys.

All sex toys should be thoroughly washed and dried after every use, as well as each time the toy is passed to a new partner during play. You also need to clean a toy before switching from anal stimulation to genital stimulation. Don’t skip a necessary cleaning because it’s not convenient. Keep an easy spray-on, wipe-off toy cleaner on hand for those times.

4.      Always use toys as intended.

Although it might seem like it’s okay to take an “if it feels good, do it” approach to sex toys, it’s important to resist the urge. Yes, different toys are made to serve different body parts or deliver different types of stimulation for efficiency’s sake.  But safety is a huge factor, as well.

For example, sex toys that aren’t made specifically for anal use may lack essential safety features to prevent the toy from getting accidentally lost inside the body. So always read the directions that come with your toy and use it as directed. The last thing anyone wants is to spend the night in the emergency room explaining an embarrassing situation to a doctor.

5.      Be careful when sharing toys with others.

Naturally, half the fun of owning sex toys in the first place are those special times you get to share your toys with a partner. But it’s important to understand that even if you religiously clean your toys, it’s still possible to spread bacteria and pathogens around when toys pass from one person to another.

A good rule of thumb to follow is to protect your toys in any instance when you would protect yourself. (Unless you’re in a long-term mutually monogamous relationship, you should be practicing safe sex anyway.) So, use condoms on insertable toys to keep them sanitary, especially if they’re made of porous or semi-porous materials. Switch out the condom as needed.

6.      Make sure your lube is toy-safe.

A particular lube being made for personal or sexual use is no guarantee that it’s okay to use with your favorite toys, so always make sure the two are compatible before you play. Silicone lubes and some hybrids can be disastrous when used with silicone toys, for example.

When in doubt, stick to water-based lubes when playing with your toys, as they’re almost always compatible. And never substitute grooming products, lotions, or anything else from around your house, just to be safe.

Ultimately, sex toy safety isn’t rocket science. But it’s essential to stay on point with it and establish ongoing good habits. Get started today!