Whether you’re currently looking for a way out of a sexual rut or simply forever open to ways to make your sex life better, it’s always a good time to try something new in the bedroom. After all, even the closest, most passionate couples occasionally deal with sexual ruts, especially once they’ve been together a while.
But a well-developed sense of intimate adventure is something that can do any couple or individual a lot of good. With a bit of creativity, work, and patience, you can keep on having incredible sex pretty much indefinitely. So here are a few suggestions to get started with as you say goodbye to the old year and hello to the new one.
1. Integrate sexting into your routine.
These days, it’s safe to say that texting is part of almost everyone’s everyday life. People use text messaging for everything from finalizing weekend plans with friends to communicating with a partner throughout the day, and it’s unlikely you’re any different. That makes it a low-key but often unexpected way to add a little sizzle to your everyday interactions.
How you approach sexting is entirely up to you, but it’s hard to go wrong by adopting an approach you know your partner would love. You can recall past sexual encounters that were extra hot. You can keep things short and sweet or go all out, even adding sexy selfies to the mix if you like. Be creative, and be sure to keep things bubbly and fun.
2. Indulge in some sex education.
When you’re really serious about taking something about your life to the next level, a little education is always an excellent way to start your journey. This is no less the case with sex, so consider branching out and acquiring some fresh knowledge in the new year to come.
How you go about this is entirely up to you and your partner, if you have one. Add a few choice picks to your bookshelves, read them cover to cover, and then discuss what you’ve learned. Sign up for an adult sex education class. Seeing a sex therapist might be a good option, as well, especially if you like the idea of getting impartial advice from a seasoned professional.
3. Have some new adventures.
Your quality of life outside your bedroom has a lot more to do with the quality of your sex life than you might think. If you’re vital, adventurous, and energetic when you’re not between the sheets, it becomes second nature to be the same way when you are. So, consider getting up, getting out, and getting moving more often next year to see where it leads you.
You get bonus points for choosing something that triggers adrenaline production. Don’t worry. It doesn’t have to be skydiving or bungee jumping unless you want it to. A nice, vigorous nature hike is just as capable of doing the job, as is a robust workout. Pick something that fits your interests, and dive in.
4. Get serious about your Kegels.
Speaking of sexy resolutions that are good for your physique, you don’t want to forget your Kegels. You may not be able to see the muscles of your pelvic floor when you look in the mirror, but that doesn’t make them any less important for your sex life. Among other things, the strength of your pelvic floor muscles affects vaginal tightness and orgasm strength.
Kegels help keep them strong and toned, especially as you get older, but you need to do them daily to achieve lasting results. They’re simple to do – just clench and release your vaginal muscles repeatedly. But the results are phenomenal, so definitely make them part of your ongoing sexual maintenance routine.
5. Play with your toys more often.
If you have a vibrator hanging out in your nightstand drawer, then you don’t need to be told what a godsend it is when you need to release some sexual energy. But don’t make the mistake of keeping your good times all to yourself. A vibrator or other sex toy makes an unforgettable addition to partnered sex that both of you are sure to really appreciate. Try it sometime and see for yourself.
And if you like that experience, consider continuing to explore the options toys bring to the table as a couple. You can shop for unique treasures to get excited about. You can also sign up for a sexy subscription box from a service like Seductive Pleasure Box for a monthly delivery of scintillating surprises to look forward to. It’s a fun, cost-effective way to keep things exciting and your collection growing over time.
Taking the time and making an effort to improve your sex life is never a waste of time. Great sex keeps you healthy, improves your wellbeing, and brings you closer to your partner, especially over the long term. So, what better investment could there be?