Sexual Health

How to Get What You Really Want in Bed

Whether you’ve been in your relationship a long time or are just getting started with someone new, it’s only natural to fantasize about mixing things up in the bedroom from time to time. Maybe you like to picture scenarios that find your partner acting a little out of character or wonder what it would be like to use a different type of toy together. Chances are that your partner occasionally does the same.

But it’s one thing to think about revamping your sex life and to fantasize about what it would be like. It’s another to bring the topic up in conversation and get what you really want in bed. Here are a few tips that can help you get where you’d like to be.

Get used to talking about (and asking for) sex.

There’s no way around the need to actually become comfortable talking about sex, at least with your partner. As intuitive and attentive as your partner might be, they’re not psychic, and all those little hints or nudges are only going to get you so far. But everyone has to start somewhere.

Some people find it easier to open up at first in the heat of the moment. If that’s you, then take advantage of things the next time you’re all revved up and desperately wanting your partner to do something specific. It will be easier for you, and they’ll almost certainly oblige eagerly.

When you’re done, try telling your partner how good what they did felt, listen to their response, and take things from there. Then try sharing some ideas you’d love to try or mention stuff you already do that you’d love to experience more often. Encourage your partner to share some ideas of their own, as well. Don’t worry if things are a little awkward at first. Practice makes perfect.

Get to know your own body better.

Everyone masturbates from time to time – men and women, single people, and those in relationships. But for many people, it’s strictly about getting off and scratching a familiar itch occasionally. Try turning your next chunk of solo time into an indulgent self-discovery session instead and see what happens. If you don’t already have one, treat yourself to a vibrator and some luxurious lube. Then set aside an afternoon or evening to really take your time exploring your body.

Experiment with running the vibrator over various zones and favorite places to see how they respond. Explore multiple ways to stimulate yourself, and take note of the ones that give you the most powerful orgasms. The more you know about how your body responds to touch and different stimulation types, the better your partner will become at following suit under your tutelage.

Reevaluate some of your boundaries.

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with having sexual boundaries. Knowing your limits and communicating what they are with a partner are essential parts of your ongoing sexual growth. However, it’s also worth asking yourself why you have the limits you do. You’d be surprised how many people set their own boundaries to match the ones their friends say they have or because someone at some point in their life told them it was wrong to do certain things.

In other words, make sure the boundaries and limits you have are indeed your own. It’s OK to have more traditional “vanilla” tastes and to like what you like. But make sure you’re not missing out on something you could be into because you’re worried about what it would say about you if you tried it and liked it. Sometimes it pays off to try something new and out of character.

Go all out occasionally.

You don’t need to wait for your anniversary or Valentine’s Day to go all-out for yourself and your partner. Yes, those days should be celebrated to the fullest, but sometimes random Tuesdays are also good times to surprise someone with a special dessert or romantic bedroom romp. Your relationship – both in and out of the bedroom – is what you make of it, so celebrate it boisterously and often.

Consider making self-established traditions like date nights, naked Sundays, or staycation weekends regular things. Start a fantasy box and take turns adding new ideas to it. Then take a couple out to try when you’re in the mood for a little something different. Subscribe to a sexy couple’s box from a service like Seductive Pleasure Box to ensure you always have a fresh incoming supply of toys and accessories to try.

Getting what you really want in bed (and helping your partner do the same) is far from impossible. But getting into the right headspace is a process. So, take the first step today, and see where it leads you!

Sex Toys For Women

Everything You’ve Ever Wanted to Know About Rabbit Vibrators

If you’re in the know as far as the wide, wonderful world of sex toys, then you likely think of the classic rabbit vibrator as the sexually liberated woman’s best friend. Capable of granting its owner as many powerful blended orgasms as she can handle, the trusty rabbit is nothing short of a godsend when it comes to easy, accessible sexual pleasure on demand.

But how much do you really know about the rabbit? Here’s a closer look at the history of the rabbit vibrator, the reasons why every woman should own at least one, and some terrific tips for choosing a rabbit you’ll love.

The Origins of the Rabbit

According to a handful of the adult toy industry’s most distinguished veterans, the first rabbit was the illustrious brainchild of a Japanese sex toy manufacturer. Before his stroke of genius, vibrators were cylindrical and straight, more or less as a rule. Of course, they got the job done well enough, and they could be used very well for one’s choice of external or internal stimulation. However, the rabbit made it possible to enjoy both kinds of stimulation simultaneously, leading to compelling dual-point orgasms that were incredibly satisfying.

The indispensable rabbit vibrator first became common household knowledge when Sex and the City’s Charlotte York became hopelessly addicted to her Rabbit Pearl in an unforgettable episode of the iconic show. Rabbits continued to generate buzz when celebrities like Eva Longoria began to talk openly about how much they loved theirs. In fact, Eva was so thrilled with her rabbit and thought it so important that women own good vibrators that she gifted all her girlfriends rabbits of their own.

After that, women everywhere stopped treating vibrator ownership and sex toy use like a dirty little secret. It became something to be proud of – a sign that you were sex-positive and entirely comfortable with your sexuality – and the rest is history.

Why Own a Rabbit?

Although they’ve been on the market long enough by now to be considered classic sex toys, rabbit-style vibrators have come a long way since they first hit the toy scene. They’re also regarded as must-have staples for any woman who’s serious about unlocking her sexual potential. Here’s a look at what they bring to the table.

Quick and Reliable Orgasms

With a rabbit in your corner, you can say goodbye to the long, frustrating climb to orgasm you might be used to. If you want to take your time getting there, you certainly can, but a rabbit is also stimulating enough to get you off in record time. That makes it great for those times you just want a quick and dirty orgasm on demand.

Lots of Options to Choose From

Although rabbits are still available in relatively simple, classic configurations, there are lots of additional options on the market to explore, as well. Some rabbits come with shafts capable of twirling, gyrating, and thrusting. Others come enhanced with bands of rotating pleasure beads or app connectivity that lets you take your experience to the next level. There are even next-level rabbits out there that add anal stimulation to the mix if that’s your jam.

Unparalleled Versatility

The days when the average woman’s partner felt intimidated or insulted by their vibrator use are over. More and more people are opening their minds to new ways to experience pleasure, not only on their own but also with their partners along for the ride. That means your rabbit makes an excellent addition to foreplay, intercourse, or love play with your partner.

Choosing the Right Rabbit for You

If you’ve never owned a rabbit before, don’t be intimidated by the sheer number of choices available to you. Making a choice you’re sure to be happy with is all about asking yourself the right questions as you peruse your options.

  • Are you in the market for something no-nonsense and straightforward, or are you at a point in your sexual journey where you’re ready to pull out all the stops?
  • How do you most like to be touched and stimulated when you’re with your partner or enjoying a little solo time?
  • Do you enjoy representational toys or designs that are more abstract?
  • What kind of material do you prefer – soft or firm, lifelike, easy to care for, or all of the above?

And, of course, there’s no reason to pick just one option unless you want to. Many sex-positive women maintain entire collections of toys so that there’s always something on hand that’s just right for every mood. If you’re interested in starting or growing a toy collection of your own, discovery boxes like Seductive Pleasure Box can make doing so easy, fun, and affordable.

One low monthly price gets you an entire box full of goodies to explore and experiment with, including a variety of high-quality sex toys. So try it today, and kick your sexual journey into high gear!